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Chat with Abby. She learns what’s going on, in plain words or barely any, and matches you with a vetted sex therapist who fits. Solo or with your partner. No directories, no waiting rooms, no awkward phone calls.

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Thursday, May 12

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Your match is ready. Her name is Daniela, and I think you’ll see why I picked her.

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Tonight 1:12 AM

I don’t even know how to say this out loud. We love each other but the physical side of us basically disappeared, and we don’t talk about it.

You just said it, and nothing broke. This is one of the most common reasons couples see a therapist, and there are people who work with exactly this every day. Want me to find one?

Okay. Someone we won’t feel judged by. And video, definitely not an office.

Done. Daniela S. She specializes in intimacy and desire differences, warm and completely unshockable. Evening video openings this week. Want me to introduce you both?

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How matching works

Your conversations become your match.

Everything you tell Abby, what’s going on, what you can’t say out loud yet, when you’re available, becomes the search. You never fill out a form.

We haven’t touched in months

I can’t even bring it up without it going wrong

It’s not attraction, something’s stuck

Someone unshockable, please

We’re fine everywhere else

Video only, not an office

Is this normal or is it just us?

I want us back

Daniela S., AMFTIntimacy & desire · Evenings available

96% match

Why her: Daniela specializes in intimacy and desire differences, brings a warm, unshockable style, and has evening video openings this week.

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A directory shows you five hundred strangers. Abby starts from your story. She maps what’s going on, how much you’re ready to say, and the practical stuff like schedule and format, then searches the network and beyond for the sex therapists who fit all of it.

You get a shortlist of real fits, with the reason behind each one. Not five hundred profiles.

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You said

“We love each other but the physical side disappeared. Someone we won’t feel judged by. Video.”

Mapping what you need

84% mapped

Connecting to memories

Apr 2 · “we didn’t talk about it again” Shame shuts the conversation down You want warm, not clinical

Searching the network and beyond

desire differences→her specialty

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Unshockable. Works with couples and solo. Video evenings open.

Abby

Meet Daniela S. She works with intimacy and desire differences every day, and has evening video openings this week.

Good to know

What a sex therapist actually does.

It’s the most misunderstood corner of therapy, which keeps people from getting help for years. Here is what it is, and isn’t.

Talk therapy. Only talk.Sex therapy is conversation with a trained therapist, nothing physical ever happens in session. The work covers desire differences, pain, performance anxiety, shame, and the silence that builds around all of it. Certified sex therapists (look for AASECT training) have specific clinical education in this.

Solo or togetherAbout half of people see a sex therapist alone: working on their own relationship with intimacy, anxiety, or history. Couples come to work on desire gaps and the conversations they can’t start at home. Both are normal front doors, and Abby matches for either.

When to goThe honest marker: when avoiding the topic has become the topic. If the silence around intimacy is doing more damage than the issue itself, that’s the moment. Most people wait years longer than they needed to, and most issues respond well once someone is actually working on them.

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Whatever you’re carrying,
Abby can match you with someone who helps.

Every specialty, every style of therapy. Tell Abby what’s going on and she knows exactly who to look for.

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Questions

Frequently asked questions

How does Abby match me with a sex therapist?

You chat with Abby privately, in as much or as little detail as you want. She learns what’s going on, whether you’re coming alone or with a partner, and the practical things like schedule and budget. Then she searches the network and beyond, then brings you a shortlist of sex therapists with the reason each one fits.

What does a sex therapist actually do?

Talk therapy only. There is never anything physical in session. A sex therapist helps with desire differences, intimacy after a rupture, pain, performance anxiety, and the communication around all of it, using the same clinical methods as any other therapy.

What is a certified sex therapist?

A licensed therapist with additional formal training in sexual health, most commonly through AASECT certification. It signals real clinical education in this area rather than just an interest listed on a profile. Abby factors credentials like this into the match.

How much does sex therapy cost?

The same as other specialized therapy: most sex therapists in the US charge between $100 and $250 per session. Therapists set their own rates, and Abby factors your budget into the match. The matching itself is free.

Do I bring my partner?

Either way works. Around half of sex therapy clients come solo. If you start alone, your therapist can help you bring your partner in later, and Abby can match you with someone who works both ways so you don’t have to switch.

Is what I share private?

Yes. Your conversations with Abby stay between you and Abby, and nothing is shared with a therapist unless you approve it word for word. Therapy sessions themselves are protected by the same confidentiality as any other therapy.

Can I use my insurance?

Tell Abby you want to use insurance and she factors it into the match, along with budget, sliding scale, or self-pay if that’s simpler. You’ll know how a therapist handles payment before you ever book.

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Abby is a thought companion and is not a licensed therapist or a substitute for professional care. If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or dial 911. Therapists shown are vetted members of the Abby partner network; supervised pre-licensed associates are noted. Match examples are illustrative. Conversations shown are illustrative.