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Thursday, May 12

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Your match is ready. Her name is Lesley, and I think you’ll both see why I picked her.

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Tonight 1:12 AM

We keep having the same fight. Different topic every time, same fight underneath. I think we need someone before it gets worse.

Wanting help before it gets worse is the best possible timing. From everything you’ve told me, you two don’t need a referee. You need someone who can slow the fight down and show you what it’s actually about. Want me to find them?

Yes. Someone we can see together. Evenings, and video is easier with the kids.

Done. Lesley L., LMFT. Fifteen years of couples work, and repeat fights are exactly her thing. Warm, but she’ll call the pattern when she sees it. Evening video openings this week. Want me to introduce you both?

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Your conversations become your match.

Everything you tell Abby, what keeps happening between you, how you both communicate, when you’re available, becomes the search. You never fill out a form.

We keep having the same fight on repeat

Lately it feels like we’re roommates

He shuts down, I push harder

Be direct with us, don’t tiptoe

Money talks always end in silence

Evenings only, we both work late

Why do small things blow up so fast?

We want to fix this before it gets worse

Lesley L., LMFTCouples & communication · Evenings available

96% match

Why her: Lesley has 15 years of couples work, is warm but direct about naming the pattern, and has evening video openings for joint sessions this week.

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You get a shortlist of real fits, with the reason behind each one. Not five hundred profiles.

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“We keep having the same fight and we can’t get out of it. Someone we can see together. Evenings, over video.”

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Connecting to memories

Mar 12 · “the money fight again” He goes quiet, she pushes harder You both want directness

Searching the network and beyond

repeat conflict cycles→her specialty

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Warm but direct. Breaks stuck patterns. Joint evenings open.

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Meet Lesley L., LMFT. She’s warm but direct, has spent 15 years helping couples break repeat fights, and has evening video openings this week.

Good to know

Couples therapy, marriage counseling, premarital. Same door.

The labels get used interchangeably, and the right therapist matters more than the term. Here is how they differ, and why Abby asks about you instead of making you pick one.

Couples therapyWorks on the pattern between you: repeat fights, growing distance, trust, intimacy. A couples therapist helps you both see the cycle you’re stuck in and change it together, whether you’re married, engaged, or ten years in without a label.

Marriage counselingThe same work with a more practical, present-day focus: communication, money, parenting, big decisions. If you searched for marriage counseling, this is the room it leads to. Abby matches you on fit, not on the label.

Premarital counselingBefore the big day. A structured look at expectations around money, family, conflict, and the future, so the hard conversations happen early with a professional in the room. Several couples therapists in the network offer it.

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Every specialty, every style of therapy. Tell Abby what’s going on and she knows exactly who to look for.

Couples & Marriage marriage counseling Anxiety anxiety therapy Intimacy intimacy therapist Anger Management classes & counseling OCD ocd treatment ADHD adhd therapist Trauma & PTSD trauma therapy Grief & Loss grief counseling Christian Counseling faith-based Premarital Counseling before the big day Depression depression therapist LGBTQ+ affirming therapists Teens & Young Adults teen counseling

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Questions

Frequently asked questions

How does Abby match us with a couples therapist?

One of you chats with Abby, or both of you do. She learns what keeps happening between you, how you each communicate, and the practical things like schedule and budget. When you’re ready, she searches the network and beyond, then brings you a shortlist of couples therapists with the reason each one fits, not five hundred profiles.

How much does couples therapy cost?

Most couples therapists in the US charge between $100 and $250 per session. Therapists set their own rates, and Abby factors your budget into the match, including sliding scale options, so there are no surprises. The matching itself is free.

What is the difference between couples therapy and marriage counseling?

Mostly the label. Both mean meeting with a trained therapist together to work on your relationship. Marriage counseling tends to focus on present-day problems like communication and decisions, while couples therapy often goes deeper into the pattern underneath them. The therapist’s fit matters far more than the term.

Does online couples therapy work?

Yes. Research on video-based couples therapy shows outcomes comparable to in-person sessions, and the logistics are much easier: no sitter, no commute, and you can join from separate places if one of you travels. Abby only matches you with therapists who offer the format you want.

What if my partner won’t come?

Start without them. It’s one of the most common ways couples work begins, and when one partner changes their side of the pattern, the pattern changes. Abby can match you individually with a therapist who works with relationship dynamics, and the door stays open for your partner to join later.

Can we use insurance?

Tell Abby you want to use insurance and she factors it into the match, along with budget, sliding scale, or self-pay if that’s simpler. You’ll know how a therapist handles payment before you ever book.

Does our therapist see our conversations with Abby?

No. Nothing is shared unless you approve it. If you want, Abby can prepare a short intro about what brings you in so you don’t start from zero in your first session, and you review every word before it’s sent.

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Abby is a thought companion and is not a licensed therapist or a substitute for professional care. If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or dial 911. Therapists shown are vetted members of the Abby partner network; supervised pre-licensed associates are noted. Match examples are illustrative. Conversations shown are illustrative.