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Chat with Abby. She learns what you’re carrying and matches you with a vetted grief counselor who fits. For loss that is fresh, or loss that never quite left. No directories, no intake forms.

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Thursday, May 12

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Your match is ready. Her name is Denise, and I think you’ll see why I picked her.

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Tonight 1:12 AM

My mom died eight months ago and everyone thinks I should be better by now. I’m not. Some days it hits like it happened yesterday.

Eight months is nothing, and grief doesn’t follow anyone else’s schedule. You don’t need to be fixed, you need somewhere the waves are allowed. A grief counselor is exactly that. Want me to find her?

Yes. Someone older maybe, who’s actually lived through things. Weekends if possible.

Done. Denise M., Psychologist. Decades of grief work, lost her own mother young, and she treats grief as love with nowhere to go. Weekend openings this week. Want me to introduce you?

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How matching works

Your conversations become your match.

Everything you tell Abby, who you lost, how it comes in waves, what people around you don’t get, becomes the search. You never fill out a form.

It comes in waves out of nowhere

Everyone thinks I should be over it

I laugh and then feel guilty for laughing

Someone who has lived through things

Holidays are a minefield now

Weekends work best for me

Is it normal to still talk to her?

I don’t want to forget, just to breathe

Denise M., PsychologistGrief & loss · Weekends available

96% match

Why her: Denise has decades of grief work behind her, treats grief as love with nowhere to go, and has weekend openings this week.

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A directory shows you five hundred strangers. Abby starts from your story. She maps who you lost, how the grief moves, and the practical stuff like schedule and budget, then searches the network and beyond for the grief counselors who fit all of it.

You get a shortlist of real fits, with the reason behind each one. Not five hundred profiles.

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“Eight months and it still hits like yesterday. Someone who has lived through things. Weekends.”

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Connecting to memories

May 4 · “her birthday was brutal” The waves come without warning Lived experience matters to you

Searching the network and beyond

complicated grief→her specialty

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Decades of loss work. Warm, unhurried. Weekends open.

Abby

Meet Denise M. She has spent decades sitting with grief, moves at your pace, and has weekend openings this week.

Good to know

Grief counseling, explained.

Grief isn’t a problem to solve, but there are ways of carrying it that hurt less. Here is what the work looks like.

There is no scheduleThe five stages were never meant as a timeline, and real grief loops, stalls, and ambushes. A grief counselor doesn’t push you through phases. They help you carry the loss in a way that leaves room for your life to keep growing around it.

When grief gets stuckMost grief softens with time and support. Sometimes it locks up instead: months where functioning barely returns, avoidance of anything connected to the person, guilt that won’t move. That’s called prolonged grief, and it responds well to specific, proven therapy.

Every loss countsParents, partners, friends, pregnancies, pets, marriages, health, the future you had planned. If it mattered to you, the grief is real, and no loss is too small or too strange to bring. Grief counselors hear all of it, without ranking.

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Whatever you’re carrying,
Abby can match you with someone who helps.

Every specialty, every style of therapy. Tell Abby what’s going on and she knows exactly who to look for.

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CBT cognitive behavioral EMDR eye movement therapy DBT dialectical behavior IFS internal family systems Psychoanalysis depth work Hypnotherapy clinical hypnosis Exposure Therapy face it gradually Psychodynamic understand the roots Somatic Therapy body-based EFT emotionally focused Talk Therapy classic one-on-one Narrative Therapy rewrite the story Imago relationship work

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Questions

Frequently asked questions

How does Abby match me with a grief counselor?

You tell Abby about the person, or the loss, in your own words. She learns how the grief moves, what people around you don’t understand, and your schedule and budget. Then she brings you a shortlist of grief counselors with the reason each one fits.

How long is grief supposed to last?

There is no supposed to. Most people find the waves spread out over the first year or two, but meaningful loss never fully disappears, and that’s not failure. Counseling helps when the grief stays as heavy as day one or starts shrinking your life.

Do I need grief counseling or just time?

Time plus support is usually enough. Consider counseling if months have passed with no softening, if you’re avoiding everything connected to the loss, or if guilt and what-ifs are louder than the memories. Those patterns respond well to help.

What happens in a grief counseling session?

Mostly space that regular life stops giving you: to tell the stories, say the unsaid things, and feel what shows up without anyone checking their watch. Counselors also teach practical ways through anniversaries, holidays, and the ambush days.

Is it normal that I still talk to them?

Completely. Continuing bonds, keeping an ongoing inner relationship with the person you lost, is considered a healthy part of grieving, not a sign you’re stuck. A grief counselor can help that bond comfort you instead of hurt.

Can I use my insurance?

Tell Abby you want to use insurance and she factors it into the match, along with budget, sliding scale, or self-pay if that’s simpler. You’ll know how a counselor handles payment before you ever book.

Does my counselor see my conversations with Abby?

No. Nothing is shared unless you approve it word for word. If you want, Abby can prepare a short intro about your loss so you don’t have to start from the beginning in your first session.

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You don’t have to carry it alone. Your match is one message away.

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Abby is a thought companion and is not a licensed therapist or a substitute for professional care. If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or dial 911. Therapists shown are vetted members of the Abby partner network; supervised pre-licensed associates are noted. Match examples are illustrative. Conversations shown are illustrative.